Learning To Love Myself

Learning to love myself is a journey in which is still very much in progress, I think almost everyone has those days when they don’t feel particularly happy with themselves. Even some of my most beautiful friends express body confidence doubts which only they can see. I’ve realised recently that it’s important that I love myself and to stop trying to hide my body and accept who I am.

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So here are some tips if you’re struggling with body confidence that I find particularly helpful on those days when you aren’t quite feeling yourself!

STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS 

Comparing myself to other people is something that I’m certainly guilty of. Not only in person but scrolling through social media and comparing yourself to other people isn’t the best thing to do when you aren’t feeling body positive. Everybody is unique and each person has different assets and flaws. Nobody is the same and that is what makes everyone special. Focusing on yourself rather than other people is something I’ve started doing recently and I feel so much better for it.

CHANGE YOUR MINDSET 

Focus on the positive rather than a negative. You’re likely thinking ‘oh shut up Jasmin’ but it’s true. Everyone seems to give this advice and it’s a line that I often hear people say and write online. Rather than highlighting your flaws in the mirror, try to think of things that you like about yourself. Easier said than done I must admit but a positive mindset is key!

For example, these I debated buying culottes for MONTHS. I tried them on in several high street shops and my friends said I should buy them and I still didn’t as I worried I looked ‘too fat’ or ‘chubby’ in them. I finally got them after three months and I love them.

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PRACTICE SELF-CARE 

Self-care, in general, is quite a broad thing. Taking some time to look after yourself is so important especially during stressful times and busy periods. This could be anything from having a bath and a night-in to meeting with friends for a coffee. Whatever makes you happiest, this might seem irrelevant to body confidence but feeling good on the inside, shines on the out.

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I hope you enjoyed this post! Comment below any of your body confidence and self-care tips! Thank you to Michaela for taking these photos too!

Jas x

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Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine / Bookclub #5

My most recent read or ‘listen’ as I listened to this book through Audible is ‘Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine’ written by Gail Honeyman. An author whom I had never heard of before until I saw this book on the bestseller list and being read by almost everyone I know. I’ve tried to give an overall view of the book, without giving too much away, so if you haven’t read it – this post is safe to read!

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The story follows the main character, Eleanor, a middle-aged woman who works in accounts with a seemingly ordinary life at first, which is gradually unpicked as the novel unfolds. A lot amount of her life is kept secret from the reader, to learn more about her you are forced to continue listening or reading which is what drew me in to continue listening.

The first few chapters are very repetitive, just like her life. She goes to work, eats pesto pasta, sleeps and repeats. The only little glimpse of excitement she sees is her Tesco Pizza and two bottles of Glen’s vodka on a Friday night. I think that’s what is likeable about her as a character, she’s relatable. In some ways, she’s just an ordinary person until you get further in and realise that things aren’t as simple as that.

I’ve read many books surrounding mental illness, however, this is one of the first I’ve read which focuses mainly on loneliness.

As I listened on Audible, I wanted to comment on the narrator and her portrayal of Eleanor. I listened for around for a few days, it was quite quickly got through. After a while, Eleanor started to get into my head and I felt immersed in her world, which is something I haven’t experienced with a fiction novel in a long time. The detailed description and the vivid images portrayed made it really easy to get into the story and feel what she feels even.

The narrator does really well to create separate characters out of one single voice, I got so used to it after a few days that it was strange to hear her interview with Gail Honeyman at the end of the audiobook.

It’s not all doom and gloom, the moral behind it all is that it’s never too late to be happy and if you’re looking for an emotional rollercoaster – this book is it.

Hope you enjoyed this post! Have you read it? Let me know what you thought.

Jas

 

Musing on Growing Up

‘I’m getting old’ is a phrase I often use when I justify to my friends that I’m staying in and not going on another night out, as I curl up with a book, a cup of tea and attempt to write my novel – which is currently going absolutely nowhere if you were wondering.

When I was younger, I used to dream of being older and being able to do what I want without permission of anyone else.

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At 21, I think I’ve hit a point where I am starting to understand the adulthood and the sheer amount of responsibility that comes with it. I have almost finished my third year of university and applying for ‘career’ jobs is absolutely terrifying. Being rejected from said jobs is even more terrifying for that matter.

My lovely Nan got married at the age of 18, she had her first child at 22, her second at 24 and not long after her third. It’s strange how times have changed and to think that at the same age as me, she was preparing to have a real life baby human. I am nowhere near ready to do any of that yet, it’s just so interesting to see how the times have changed since then. As my Nan says, ‘Things were just different back then.’

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There is a lot of pressure, however, many of my friends are having children, buying houses and getting job promotions. Which is all wonderful and I’m so happy for them but I can’t help but feel like the university has set me back a little when it comes to adulthood.

I’m three years behind everyone else for a piece of paper, a sh*t load of debt that may not even get me a better job or a better advantage than anyone else.

I guess we’ll see, won’t we? Thank you for reading this blog post, hope you enjoyed my ramblings even a little.

Jas x

Amor Magazine: 5 Year Journey

It doesn’t seem like it was 5 years ago that I attended an event with the Youth Media Agency in London and listened to Ruby Mae Moore speak about Amor Magazine and I instantly felt inspired.

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I spoke to Ruby after her talk and she gave me her business card and a few days later, she called me and I started officially writing for Amor.

Receiving the magazines in the post and seeing my work being published online was something that I had never experienced before. It really shaped me as a person and pushed me in the right direction with my education and career path.

Over the past 5 years, I have learnt so much from Amor, Ruby and all the lovely writers behind it.

I’ve gone from being a beauty journalist with very little experience to now the Beauty Editor working with Public Relations companies and big brands such as Barry M, Magnitone, Bioderma, House of Holland and so many more whilst completing my degree in Journalism.

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It’s an opportunity that I will forever be grateful for and over the past 5 years I have learnt so much and can’t wait to continue.

If you would like to write for Amor, please email me at jasmin@amormagazine.co.uk

Hope you enjoyed this post.

Jas x

 

 

 

 

The Christmas Tag

It’s the best time of year and the Christmas tree went up today and I’m feeling very festive so I thought I would give the Christmas tag a go! So, first of all, I’m going to tag Poppy and Jas (A fellow Jasmin and I love reading her blog and you will too)!

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What’s your favourite Christmas movie?
ELF, it’s my all-time favourite Christmas film. I watched it today, it just cracks me up and never fails to make me laugh.

Have you ever had a White Christmas?

Not on Christmas day that I can remember, we sometimes had snow a few days before Christmas or in January.

Where do you usually spend your holiday?

It’s a mixture, I have family all over the place. Usually, Christmas Day is spent with my Mum and Brother and Boxing Day with other family members.

What is your favourite Christmas song?

All I want for Christmas is youuuuuuuuuuu! It’s just so catchy.

Do you open any presents on Christmas Eve?

One, I think you should always have a Christmas Eve present.

Can you name all of Santa’s reindeer?

Rudolph, Dancer, Prancer and Vixen, I can’t remember the rest…

What holiday traditions are you looking forward to this year?

Falling asleep on Christmas Day after eating lots of treats and roast dinner!

Is your Christmas tree real or fake?

Fake, real ones aren’t very good for the environment and the needles get everywhere.

What’s your all-time favourite holiday treat/food/sweet?

Cheese, lots and lots, and lots of cheese. Cheese boards, crackers, caramelised onion chutney, camembert, Wensleydale with cranberry, some more cheese.

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Be honest, do you like giving or receiving gifts better?

Giving! I love the entire process but I do think there’s sometimes a big expectation to impress. It can sometimes be a little worrying if you haven’t got the right thing.

What is the best Christmas present you have ever received?

This is quite a difficult one, I’ve had some lovely Pandora charms given to me over the past few years.

What would be your dream place to visit for the holiday season?

NEW YORK. Without a doubt, it’s a bucket list trip. Ice skating, all the Christmas decorations up… Dreamy.

Are you a pro present wrapper or do you fail miserably?

Professional, in one of my previous jobs I worked in a toy shop and my lovely boss Luan taught me to wrap like a pro.

Most memorable holiday moment?

Last year we played that splat face game with the family, it was hilarious.
What made you realise the truth about Santa?

The truth about Santa, what do you mean?!
What makes the holidays special for you?

Being together with my family and friends.

 

Simple Ways To Help The Environment

If you’ve been watching Blue Planet II over the past few weeks, you may have seen one of the most recent episodes where a baby pilot whale died due to plastic pollution in the ocean. The Mother carried the dead whale for 2 days until eventually giving up.

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This happens often and animals often consume plastic that’s floating around in the sea. The episode also showed smaller animals like turtles becoming trapped in floating debris and plastic.

Here are some very simple ways to reduce waste and become more mindful every day.

  1. Carry your cups. Buying a reusable cup to pick up your coffee and hot drinks can make a big difference. Some places even give you some money off for using one! If not, try and drink your coffee in to save that waste.
  2. Buy loose fruit and veg, tea and look for food with minimal packaging when shopping. It often can be cheaper and will reduce that extra plastic being put into the oceans.
  3. Reuse those takeaway boxes! If you do have to get some plastic for example when you order a Chinese try to reuse the boxes throughout the house.
  4. Grow your own, if you can! If you have the space growing your own fruit and veg can really help the planet.
  5. Carry a reusable plastic bag, it saves those 5ps and helps the planet.

What do you do to be more mindful? Comment below!

 

Jas x